Foreplay Radio – Couples and Sex Therapy 505: Why Touch Matters
Aug 15, 2025
Explore the fascinating world of touch in relationships, from affectionate to erotic. Discover how these different types of touch serve distinct purposes and the importance of non-demanding pleasure. The hosts discuss the challenges when a simple hug can lead to conflict and share strategies for re-establishing intimacy. Learn about the transformative power of couple retreats and the implications of potential rebranding to enhance their message. Plus, uncover the connection between gratitude and emotional bonds in moments of shared experiences.
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Three Touches On A Continuum
- Barry McCarthy's continuum separates affectionate, sensual, and erotic touch to clarify motivations behind touch.
- Distinguishing attachment-driven touch from pleasure-driven touch gives partners more choice and understanding.
Use Affection To Reassure
- Use affectionate touch to signal care and emotional closeness without sexual intent.
- Ask explicitly for hugs or holding when you need reassurance to avoid mixed signals.
Touch Can Shift Instantly
- Touch systems shift fast and a harmless hug can become sexual for some people within seconds.
- Accepting that bodily responses vary reduces shame and opens space for negotiation.
