The ADHD Adults Podcast Episode 195 ADHD & Limerance
Oct 20, 2025
Dive into the intriguing link between ADHD and limerence! The hosts dissect the core symptoms of limerence, including intrusive thoughts and extreme idealization. They explore how ADHD traits amplify this obsessive infatuation, resembling an addiction-like dynamic. Personal stories bring the topic to life, highlighting the emotional fallout of limerent relationships. Packed with insights and humorous banter, this discussion sheds light on the complex interplay of emotions and how to navigate the murky waters of limerence.
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Limerence Is A Dopamine Loop
- Limerence is an intense involuntary obsession fueled by uncertainty and repeated small rewards.
- Dopamine-driven incentive salience turns minor cues into glowing signals of importance.
ADHD Amplifies Limerent Responses
- ADHD brains are novelty-seeking and dopamine-hungry, making limerence more likely and intense.
- Intermittent reinforcement (hot/cold signals) amplifies the addictive effect for people with ADHD.
Two-Year Obsession That Needed Therapy
- James describes a two-year limerent obsession with a male friend that disrupted his life and required therapy.
- The pattern of intermittent messages and validation kept him hooked despite limited reciprocation.
