The Crappy Childhood Fairy Podcast with Anna Runkle

There's Something Appealing About Partners Who Disappoint

Sep 13, 2024

17:48

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The discussion dives into how childhood trauma can lead to relationships with avoidant partners, highlighting the early allure of their indifference. As the conversation unfolds, feelings of neglect and loneliness emerge, revealing the emotional toll on those seeking deeper connections. Personal stories illustrate the turbulent dynamics in marriages marked by disconnection, despite partners’ positive traits. The importance of communication and empathy is emphasized as key to navigating these complex emotional landscapes.

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Childhood trauma often leads to attracting avoidant partners, creating emotional neglect and feelings of invalidation in adult relationships.

Managing emotions through self-care and open communication can help individuals with trauma navigate relationships and promote personal growth.

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Childhood Trauma and Attachment Styles

Childhood trauma can create blind spots that affect adult relationships, particularly leading to attraction towards avoidant partners. Individuals with an anxious attachment style may find themselves drawn to avoidant individuals, despite the emotional distance and lack of connection that often ensues. This dynamic can manifest as emotional neglect, where the avoidant partner's indifferent responses leave the anxious partner feeling invalidated and unloved. Healing from such patterns involves understanding these attachment styles and recognizing the need for personal emotional support beyond the relationship.

Intro

2min

Navigating Emotional Disconnection in Marriage

4min

Navigating the Complexities of Avoidant Attachment in Marriage

11min

Trauma in your childhood gives you a blind spot that makes it easy to become attached to people who are AVOIDANT – they pull away when you try to pull close, they don’t GET it about being present for someone, or honoring them on special occasions. Avoidant people can do some parts of relationships really well, but over time, they can leave you feeling neglected, disrespected and alone. But what is it about them that makes it FEEL, at first at least, that it works so well? Is there something about their indifference that is HELPFUL to those of us with trauma? Is it even possible to be happy when someone seems to intentionally disappoint you all the time? My letter is from a woman I’ll call Marilyn, and she writes…

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