

#84: Why You Can’t Get Out of Your Head During Sex—And What To Do About It
7 snips Apr 13, 2025
Dive into the mental hurdles that can block pleasure during intimacy. Discover why it's not just you—nervous system patterns play a role. Learn how performance anxiety and pleasing others can stifle enjoyment. Explore essential tools to help you reconnect with your body and truly experience the moment. Redefining success in sex is key to enhancing pleasure. This discussion offers practical advice and empowering reminders for women to move beyond distractions and fully embrace intimacy.
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Hannah's Personal Sex Experience
- Hannah shared her personal experience of zoning out during sex due to body insecurities and overthinking.
- Despite wanting connection, she often felt detached, thinking about appearance and partner's enjoyment instead of the moment.
Head Space is Nervous System
- Getting stuck in your head during sex is not a personal flaw but a nervous system protection mechanism.
- Understanding this helps make shifting the pattern easier and less shame-inducing.
Relaxation Unlocks Pleasure
- Your body must feel safe and relaxed for pleasure to arise; stress and tension block arousal.
- Sex feels impossible if your nervous system is stuck in fight or flight mode from life stressors.