Optimal Relationships Daily - Dating, Marriage and Parenting 2601: Things to Try if You Don't Feel Heard: 5 Ways to Express Yourself Differently by Alysha Jeney of Modern Love Counseling
May 25, 2025
Explore transformative strategies for feeling heard in relationships. Discover how emotional intelligence and vulnerability can enhance communication, even during conflicts. Learn the importance of compassion and self-awareness in navigating difficult conversations. Ponder insightful quotes about the nuances of anger and validation. Engage in open dialogue to strengthen connections and prevent misunderstandings. These practical approaches aim to build deeper, more meaningful partnerships.
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Validity of Differing Views
- Feeling unheard often stems from differing perceptions rather than unclear communication.
- Both partners are valid in their views, even if those views conflict.
Use Emotional Intelligence, Not Anger
- Exercise emotional intelligence by identifying your true feelings before reacting.
- Avoid defaulting to anger; reveal your fears and insecurities instead to foster understanding.
Avoid Accusations, Use Perceptions
- Avoid accusatory language like "you always" or "you did" during conflicts.
- Express perceptions gently to reduce defensiveness, e.g., "I perceive you shut down... and it really hurts me."