The Libido Fairy Podcast #103: The Biggest Mistake Women Make In Sex
Sep 1, 2025
Discover the common mistake women make in sexual relationships, often prioritizing caretaking over personal enjoyment. Explore how early family dynamics shape adult intimacy and the importance of shifting focus to personal needs. The conversation also delves into redefining female desire, encouraging women to embrace their own pleasures and communicate their wants. This shift can lead to a more fulfilling and connected sexual experience.
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Caretaking Began In Childhood
- Hannah describes becoming caretaker for her father after his first manic episode and how it shaped her behavior.
- That caretaking role later caused her to perform pleasure in relationships instead of seeking her own desire.
Performance Undermines Desire
- Performing for a partner and prioritizing their experience can extinguish a woman's desire for sex.
- Cultural conditioning trains women to prioritize others' needs over tuning into their own bodies.
Cultural Training Shapes Sexual Roles
- Society praises women's over-sacrifice and teaches sexual roles centered on pleasing others.
- This socialization turns sex into a checkbox rather than a source of personal pleasure.
