Sexology

EP98 - Surviving Infidelity (Tips for the Offender)

Nov 20, 2018

41:43

Welcome to episode 98 of the Sexology Podcast, today I’m delighted to be joined by Beth Luwandi Lofstrom who speaks to me about surviving infidelity as the offender, the process of disclosure and how that impacts the partner and recommendations for offenders to get themselves unstuck.

Beth Luwandi Lofstrom is a Licensed Professional Counselor in private practice in Cincinnati, Ohio where her specialty areas are love and loss. She treats couples and individuals healing from infidelity and other relationship wounds. Her Whole Human Theory(TM), an approach based on brain science and methods research, also includes personality assessment to effectively confront variations in individual motivation, processing, communication, and inner world. In this way, Whole Human Theory presents an approach that gets to the core of issues in a highly efficient manner and moves people forward as quickly as possible.

Her book, After the Affair, Healing for the Offender uses this unique perspective to treat infidelity from the inside out with a focus on the offender's healing. While most texts unapologetically side with the betrayed partner or give minimal empathy or time to the offender, Ms. Luwandi acknowledges and presents a road map for anyone who has ever strayed and is feeling the effects of their choices.

In this episode, you will hear:

Why Beth decided to focus on the experience of the offender
The unhelpful patterns that get offenders stuck
The process of disclosure and how that impacts the partner
Why Beth doesn’t ask clients to break off their affairs whilst working with them
How some people use affairs to get out of a relationship