The Baffling Behavior Show {Parenting after Trauma}

EP 225: How to Stay Curious When Behavior Makes No Sense

Jun 10, 2025
Discover the transformative power of curiosity in parenting, especially when faced with perplexing behaviors. Learn how to shift your mindset from 'what’s wrong?' to 'what's needed?' Curiosity acts as a guide for understanding your child's hidden needs, promoting emotional regulation and compassion. Delve into why baffling behaviors like lying or stealing may hold clues to deeper issues. Engaging in reflective exercises can aid both personal growth and your child’s success, fostering a safer and more empathetic environment.
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INSIGHT

Curiosity and The Owl Brain

  • Curiosity emerges from a regulated nervous system state where change is possible.
  • It helps keep us in our owl brain, enabling logic and connection instead of protection mode.
ADVICE

Use Curiosity for Co-Regulation

  • Use curiosity as a self co-regulation tool by noticing your own shifts into protection mode.
  • Stay curious about others' behaviors to co-regulate both them and yourself.
INSIGHT

Contagious Nervous System States

  • Nervous system states are contagious so others' protection mode triggers our own.
  • Strengthening our window of tolerance helps us recognize this and reduce reactive flips into protection mode.
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