85: When Emotional Intimacy Doesn't Come Easy For Men with Randell Turner

I'm interested in doing a podcast episode primarily for men about understanding intimacy, especially if it wasn't modeled in your home growing up. To be clear, I don't mean “intimacy” as a euphemism for sex. I mean Intimacy as in relational closeness: a willingness to know and be fully known by your spouse.

Many men struggle to get emotionally close to their spouse. They confuse intimacy with sex. They think showing emotion is a sign of weakness (with the exception of anger). I don’t know how accurate this is, but I once heard this cliver quip about how men want to penetrate their wives sexually and women want to penetrate their husbands emotionally. Yet so many men have never learned how to let another person into their heart.

Today I interview Dr. Randell Turner, who’s done a lot of research and ministry around teaching men intimacy skills. He’s got an interesting story that you might relate to as well!