You Can’t Love Yourself If You Don’t Know Who You Are | Lisa Bilyeu (Fan Fav)

Jun 13, 2025

Dive into a transformative journey of self-love and self-discovery. Hear powerful stories and practical tools that help you prioritize your own well-being. Explore the liberating steps from just loving yourself to fully accepting yourself. The discussion emphasizes the importance of meditation, journaling, and resilient relationships in fostering true confidence. Learn how to navigate life’s challenges while honoring your identity and celebrating your victories along the way!

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ADVICE

Meditation Sparks Self-Discovery

Meditation and journaling help you discover your true self beyond others' opinions.
Spend time building a relationship with yourself, not just a perception based on others.

ANECDOTE

Supportive Partner Enables Self-Love

Speaker 6 credits her husband Jay Shetty's self-understanding for helping her love herself more.
His non-critical nature taught her to stop being self-critical and accept life’s challenges with love.

ADVICE

Use Journaling to Build Self-Relation

Develop an unbreakable relationship with your future self through journaling and mental imagery.
Use journaling to create a private space for self-connection without judgment.

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This is a Fan Fav episode. On this episode of Women of Impact, I (Lisa Bilyeu) invite you to take a raw, real, and actionable journey into the core of self love, self discovery, and what it means to truly prioritize yourself. Joined by powerhouse women—including Mel Robbins and other inspiring voices—we strip back the pressure of “just love yourself” and dig deep into the practical tools, honest struggles, and daily habits it takes to actually build self-acceptance and confidence from the inside out.

With unfiltered conversation, candid stories, and advice you can use today, we break down the difference between knowing who you are and loving who you are, tackling everything from the shame spiral to the importance of journaling, honoring your victories, and standing strong in your identity—no matter what life hands you.

SHOWNOTES

00:00:00 – Defining self love: Treating yourself as well as you treat your most loved person
00:00:32 – How meditation and journaling spark self discovery and identity beyond others’ opinions
00:02:25 – The power of supportive relationships: Learning from partners who model self-acceptance
00:04:44 – Facing life’s punches: Developing resilience through setbacks, not just pep talks
00:09:49 – Journaling as self-creation: Practical exercises for connecting with your future self
00:13:04 – Why just “loving yourself” isn’t enough—and the liberating step of acceptance
00:17:01 – Discovering what truly fulfills you beyond roles, titles, or external validation
00:20:35 – Unpacking childhood wounds around worth, appearance, and identity—and the power of healing before the fall
00:22:44 – Redefining wealth and worth: Why fulfillment must go deeper than money or success
00:24:08 – Everyday self love in practice: The humblebrag challenge and rewiring your own narrative

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You’ll walk away with practical tools and the belief—you’ve got this, girl. Now let’s love ourselves out loud, one honest moment at a time.

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