Coming Out Late Ep. #71: My Chat w/Late Bloomer Krista, Part 2
In this Part 2 episode, Robin continues her conversation with Krista, a 49-year old late bloomer. Krista never really used any labels for herself regarding how she felt about boys and girls, men and women - but she did know she was never really enamored with ‘guys’, when all of her female school friends were! After a secret relationship with a girl in high school, (they even went to the high school Prom together), Krista moved out of state for college and married a man when she was quite young. The minute she left that 3-year marriage, (and around the time of her college graduation), her very first thought turned to - you guessed it - WOMEN! But, not knowing where to find her community of gay women or how to even begin to date a woman, Krista’s attention was distracted by a very nice young guy, who she would ultimately marry.
In this episode of the “Coming Out Late” podcast, you will hear Krista talk about . . .
- WHO and HOW she was outed to her husband.
- Does anyone, besides us, have the ‘right’ to out us to people we know/love?
- Krista’s plans for her future: divorce? Move out?
- Learning to NOT JUDGE someone when they’ve had an affair. “Acceptance” and “kindness” is always the better way to go, versus ‘judgment’.
- What constitutes an ‘affair’? Is the thinking around ‘affairs’ also an old construct that needs to be re-thought and re-visited?
- Letting go of an unhealthy catalyst relationship.
- Am I still gay if I’m no longer with my catalyst?
- Making gay friends is soooooo important! Building healthy friendships and building a gay community should be the priority over a relationship.
- Recognizing unhealthy self-soothing behaviors (i.e., ‘shopping’), and recognizing codependent behavior!
- Get outside in nature; get to know yourself more - spend alone time w/yourself.
- How 1:1 private Coaching w/Robin has helped Krista out enormously; Robin has helped her with her catalyst experience, the messy middle, and moving forward.
- If YOU would like to share your story (anonymously or publicly), on the Coming Out Late podcast, email Robin at: Comingoutlater@gmail.com.
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THE 2023 “COMING OUT LATE RETREAT” SCHEDULE:
We are “retreating” to:
(1) Phoenix, Arizona: April 13, 14, 15, & 16, 2023
(2) Rehoboth Beach, DE: April 27, 28, 29, and 30, 2023 - “Women’s Fest”
To be put on the waiting list for ANY of the THREE Retreats, (Florida, Arizona or Delaware), email Robin at: Comingoutlater@gmail.com.
“WOMEN’S FEST” RETREAT, REHOBOTH BEACH, DE
For more information about the details of the “Women’s Fest” weekend itself, they are slowly adding information to their website as their event details get solidified; you can go to: https://www.camprehoboth.com//womensfest.
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