Making Polyamory Work The Other Skipped Step in Opening Up
Nov 26, 2019
Monogamous couples often struggle when transitioning to open relationships. The discussion highlights the importance of attachment theory in fostering trust and security. Insecurities and jealousy can lead to damaging outcomes if not addressed properly. The conversation emphasizes the need for compassionate communication to strengthen bonds. Couples are encouraged to confront their fears and prioritize emotional connection, advocating for flexibility over strict agreements for a healthier dynamic.
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Security Trumps Disentanglement
- Insecure attachment, not enmeshment, is the root problem in couples opening up relationships. - Disentangling without security can lead to heartbreak and trust breakdown.
Attachment Theory Basics
- Attachment theory shows we seek safety and comfort from attuned caregivers starting in infancy. - Secure attachment continues into adulthood, enabling autonomy and risk taking.
Key Elements of Secure Attachment
- Secure attachment requires partners to be attuned, responsive, and accessible. - Attunement means paying earnest attention to your partner's feelings and needs.