PsycHacks Episode 562: Bait your hook (how will you be used?)
Oct 17, 2025
In this discussion, the metaphor of fishing captures the art of dating and relationships. Presenting attractive 'bait' is essential, as unappealing approaches repel potential partners. It's revealed that attraction can sometimes be transactional, yet it opens useful doors. Expanding your reach and appealing to others’ preferences can increase your chances of finding suitable partners. Emphasizing kindness may not always attract initial interest. Ultimately, playing to your strengths while navigating the dating pool is crucial to avoid being exploited.
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You Must Bait Your Hook
- You must bait your hook to attract relationships; fish don't bite a naked hook.
- Different baits work for different fish, so present something appealing to your target audience.
The Naked-Hook Date Example
- Orion imagines a man who tells a date there's nothing attractive about him to show a naked-hook approach.
- That display yields no interest because it gives others no reason to engage.
Having Strong Bait Is A Net Advantage
- Having attractive bait (wealth or beauty) is an 'excellent problem' because it guarantees some bites.
- Bait that works may attract many undesired suitors but also increases odds of finding higher-quality matches.
