

How to Co-Regulate: The Science Behind Relationship Harmony with Mark Groves
43 snips Feb 12, 2025
Mark Groves, a relationship expert and co-author of 'Liberated Love', dives deep into emotional mastery and connection. He discusses the 'vulnerability cycle' and its impact on relationship patterns. Mark reveals how defensiveness sabotages intimacy and shares strategies to co-regulate even in challenging moments. He highlights the importance of breaking free from inherited relational habits, turning conflict into connection, and embracing discomfort for growth. His insights are a game changer for anyone seeking deeper love and understanding in their relationships.
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Overcoming Defensiveness
- If you tend to get defensive, try saying, "I can see some truth in what you're saying."
- This opens up a conversation and softens the other person, leading to deeper intimacy.
Unmet Needs & Criticism
- Behind every criticism lies a desired behavior and an unmet emotional need.
- Addressing the underlying need, not just the criticism, fosters deeper connection.
Wounds and Love
- Our defense mechanisms often protect our deepest wounds, hindering deeper connection.
- True intimacy requires confronting these wounds to access the love we desire.