The Jefferson Fisher Podcast Dr. Becky: How to Stay Patient When You’re Triggered
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Oct 14, 2025 
Dr. Becky Kennedy, a clinical psychologist and founder of the Good Inside parenting platform, shares insights for parents on understanding children's behavior. She emphasizes reframing misbehavior as a skill deficit and the importance of a generous mindset in parenting. Becky discusses practical strategies like validating feelings with 'I believe you' and using 'you really wish' to teach frustration management. She also highlights the value of sibling arguments for developing problem-solving skills and stresses that connection can be rebuilt after parenting mistakes.
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Behavior Reflects Missing Skills
- See misbehavior as a skill deficit, not a character flaw.
- That shift changes how you respond and what you teach your child.
Most vs Least Generous Interpretation
- We default to the least generous interpretation (LGI) about kids' actions.
- Choosing a most generous interpretation (MGI) leads to calmer, more effective parenting.
Let Kids Solve Some Conflicts
- Let siblings resolve conflicts when safe and appropriate to build negotiation skills.
- Avoid repeatedly acting as the arbiter to prevent creating dependence.
