In this discussion, Liz, a newcomer to BDSM, shares her journey of introducing D/s dynamics into her 11-year relationship. With humor and honesty, she reflects on overcoming initial fears and the profound impact this shift has had on intimacy. Liz emphasizes the importance of communication, particularly through tools like a sex menu for expressing desires. She highlights how submission has been liberating in her otherwise dominant life and showcases how open dialogue has transformed her connection with her partner.
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Overcoming Past BDSM Fears
Liz overcame fears about BDSM due to past non-consensual experiences before discussing it with her partner, Tom.
She trusted Tom and decided to explore submission together as a way to reclaim power safely.
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Use the Sex Menu Tool
Use resources like the "sex menu" to research and communicate your desires before discussing BDSM with your partner.
This tool radically improves openness and clarity in sexual discussions.
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Starting D/s Conversation
Liz nervously initiated the BDSM conversation with Tom during a video game session.
Their open communication led to an immediate positive and honest discussion about D/s dynamics.
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Chief and Moineau sit down with Liz who recently introduced D/s into an existing long-term relationship. With humour and candidness, Liz shares their initial steps, challenges, and the profound impact of BDSM on their connection and communication.
From confronting fears and preconceptions to utilising practical tools like the sex menu for negotiating desires, this episode is a testament to the transformative power of open dialogue and trust in rekindling intimacy.
Join us for an enlightening discussion that demystifies the transition into a D/s lifestyle, offering insights and encouragement for those curious about the path of sexual exploration and deepened partnership.
Key Points & Timestamps:
[00:00:26] Liz discusses beginning their D/s journey and overcoming challenges related to depression and medication.
[00:03:21] Chief and Liz reflect on how D/s dynamics can revive intimacy in long-term relationships.
[00:04:30] Introduction of the sex menu as a transformative tool for couples.
[00:06:02] Liz shares the initial conversation with Tom about exploring a D/s relationship, highlighting the importance of communication.
[00:07:59] Transitioning from minimal communication about sex to frequent, open dialogues.
[00:12:34] Liz describes the liberating aspect of submission in her otherwise dominant life roles.
[00:14:17] Discussion on the gradual introduction and evolution of D/s dynamics in a relationship.
[00:15:22] Homework assignments as a method for exploring and expressing desires within the D/s context.
[00:18:40] Overcoming a hiccup in a scene and the importance of safe words and aftercare.
[00:23:20] Liz shares the positive changes and deeper connection in her relationship since embracing D/s, encouraging open discussions about sex and desires.
[00:29:14] Surprises and adjustments made after filling out the sex menu.
[00:32:39] Liz emphasizes the importance of overcoming fear and engaging in open communication with partners.
[00:38:14] Looking forward to the future of their D/s dynamic and exploring new activities together.
[00:41:48] Final thoughts: The significance of communication and not being afraid t
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