The Art of Accomplishment

The Anatomy of Shame - Emotion Series #8

Jul 22, 2022

Delve into the dynamics of shame and its powerful influence on our identities. The discussion draws parallels between shame and an electric fence, illustrating how societal expectations can confine us. Personal stories reveal how this emotion can stagnate growth, while reframing shame as a source of inherent goodness opens paths to self-acceptance. Emphasis is placed on vulnerability and community support, encouraging listeners to share their own experiences for healing and connection. Ultimately, shame transforms from a barrier to a guide for authentic living.

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Shame Stagnates Emotional Fluidity

01:33

Reframe Your Desires Positively

00:56

Exploring Shame

00:55

Intro

2min

Understanding Shame: A Personal Reflection

6min

The Electric Fence of Shame: Understanding Psychological Barriers

4min

Understanding Shame and Its Effects

17min

Reframing Shame: Embracing Inherent Goodness

11min

Cultivating the Moral Compass: From Childhood to Adulthood

2min

Embracing Vulnerability: The Power of Sharing Shame

2min

Shame is nature’s way of training us to fit into our culture and society. Like an electric fence, it outlines the contours of the identity we’ve grown into and discourages us from straying outside the lines.

This boundary around our comfort zone is often a poor match for ourselves and the world we live in. When we feel shame, our emotional experience stagnates, dampening our evolution and our enjoyment. People often find themselves stuck in the same shame cycles for years.

In this episode, Joe and Brett examine the structure of shame and how to melt it on an intellectual, emotional, and somatic level.

Transformed through awareness and love, our shame becomes a natural set of guide rails that help us live our life in alignment with our deepest values.

"All we're doing here is freeing the blocking of emotions by feeling into our body and creating love where there was abandonment."

The following is the “wall of shame” referenced at the end of the episode, compiled from Brett’s journal and submissions from our listeners:

Shame of being amateur/inexperienced
...of missing opportunities
...of being incompetent
...of backing down or giving up
...of not creating value
...of being wrong, and then being hard-headed about it
...of being an outsider who doesn't speak the lingo
...of asking for help
...of being 'transactional'
...of not being present enough
...of hovering anxiously
...of having shame and hiding it
...of being a 'hypocrite'
...of being a know-it-all
...of being helpless or clueless
...of not 'deserving it'
...of failing as a result of either over- or under-control
...of upsetting people or scaring them with the truth
...of showing hurt or disappointment
...of not following my intuition
...of not being clever, determined, or forthright
...of not being ambitious, or of being too ambitious
...of disagreeing
...of telling people they are wrong
...of being withdrawn
...of needing people to change their behavior
...of needing time
...of thinking slowly
...of not knowing how
...of not feeling good when others are socializing
…of not being enough (strong, present, resourceful, smart)
…of freezing when action is required
…of hurting the people I love

Send yours with the feedback form on our website to add to this list. Submissions will, of course, be anonymized.

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