02: What's The Root Cause Of Your Jealousy with Dr. Genesis Games
Jul 12, 2022
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Dr. Genesis Games, a psychologist specializing in attachment styles, discusses the root causes of jealousy and insecurity in relationships. They delve into the different attachment styles, including secure, anxious, avoidant, and a combo of anxious-avoidant. Dr. Games also provides 5 ways to move towards a secure attachment style. The podcast explores how childhood experiences shape parenting and the impact of conscious communication. It highlights the development of attachment styles in children and addresses fear, lack of confidence, and attachment styles in relationships.
Attachment styles formed in childhood significantly impact adult relationships, with a secure attachment style being ideal for confidence and trust.
Language and communication patterns play a pivotal role in shaping attachment styles, with negative language and labels impacting a child's self-perception and potentially leading to insecurity and fear of closeness in adult relationships.
Deep dives
Understanding the Impact of Attachment Styles on Relationships
Attachment styles, formed in childhood, significantly impact our adult relationships. Secure attachment style, marked by confidence and trust, is ideal. Anxious attachment style leads to fear of abandonment and seeking constant reassurance. Avoidant attachment style arises from self-reliance and avoidance of intense closeness. A mix of anxious and avoidant traits causes a push-pull dynamic. Moving towards a secure attachment style involves finding a secure partner, participating in couples therapy, and recognizing communication patterns. Assessing relationship dynamics, taking attachment style quizzes, reflecting on early experiences, and improving communication can all contribute to healing and growth towards a secure attachment style.
The Development of Attachment Styles in Childhood
Attachment styles begin to develop around 9-12 months, influenced by the main caregiver's behavior. Secure attachment is characterized by comfort in one's own skin and balance between independence and closeness. Anxious attachment arises from fear of abandonment and a constant need for reassurance. Avoidant attachment stems from self-reliance and skepticism towards relying on others. Some individuals may display a combination of anxious and avoidant traits. These attachment styles can impact relationships throughout one's life, but they are not permanent and can change with personal growth, therapy, and understanding.
Recognizing the Impact of Language and Communication in Attachment Styles
Language and communication patterns play a pivotal role in shaping attachment styles. The way caregivers and influential adults talk about and interact with children shapes their inner voice and beliefs about themselves. Negative language and labels, even if meant as jokes, can deeply impact a child's self-perception. Attachment styles can influence adult relationships, causing insecurity, fear of being unlovable, and struggle with closeness. Secure individuals are capable of open and effective communication, expressing feelings and needs. Insecure individuals may struggle to communicate authentically, fearing abandonment or suffocation.
Healing and Moving Towards a Secure Attachment Style
Moving towards a secure attachment style involves self-reflection, personal growth, and seeking supportive relationships. Understanding relationship patterns, taking quizzes, and exploring early experiences can provide valuable insights. Therapy, particularly couples therapy, is beneficial for navigating attachment issues within relationships. Finding a secure partner challenges and supports growth. Working on communication skills, expressing needs and expectations, and maintaining self-compassion are essential steps. While change is possible, it requires commitment, self-awareness, and effort to heal wounds and cultivate a secure attachment style.
If you've ever researched..."why am I jealous" you may have been left with more questions than answers. In this episode, Dr. Genesis Games walks you through what may be at the root of your jealousy and insecurities.
You'll get a deep dive into each of the attachment styles and why it's important to know yours.
Secure Attachment
Anxious Attachment
Avoidant Attachment
Combo of Anxious-Avoidant (relationship fireworks x 10)
Wondering how to feel more secure in relationships? Dr. Games also shares 5 ways to move to a secure attachment style to improve relationships.
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