Conversations from the Heart #105 - Break the Spell: Reclaiming Power After Narcissistic Fallout
Why do some people leave you feeling small, confused, or ashamed, even though they smile, laugh, and seem perfectly nice?
In this powerful coaching conversation, Jaya explores what happens when charm and condescension hide behind friendly facades. Together, we name the impact of what I call narcissistic fallout: the lingering disorientation that surfaces when unresolved trauma meets relational manipulation.
We explore:
•Why some conversations feel like being hypnotized
•The nervous system effects of subtle emotional control
•How to spot power moves disguised as “concern”
•What to say (and how to exit) when someone laughs at your pain
•The inner work of breaking free from spells of confusion and control
You’ll leave this episode with:
•Practical language to protect your power
•A somatic metaphor to stay grounded (the oak tree)
•A gentle reminder that your grief holds your clarity
This is an episode for anyone reclaiming their voice after emotional gaslighting or enmeshment, and learning to walk away from people who don’t feel safe in their nervous system.
SHOW NOTES
•[03:10] How past trauma shows up in confusing conversations
•[07:20] What is “narcissistic fallout” and how does it hijack your power?
•[10:15] Why charming people can leave you feeling ashamed
•[14:30] Practical phrases to interrupt manipulation mid-conversation
•[20:50] “The porcupine and the ring” — a metaphor for protecting yourself
•[22:00] The Jungle Book python & the hypnotic quality of old patterns
•[26:40] What to do when you keep trying to be liked by people who harm you
•[32:10] How to support your inner teenager during relational triggers
•[37:00] Somatic tools for staying rooted in your power
•[39:00] Sample exit scripts you can use to protect your nervous system
Resources & Links:
•Join the Truth Over Comfort live workshop on August 14th (6–8pm CST): Register here.
•Free Communication Starter Kit
•Learn more about the Conversations from the Heart Membership Program
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