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How Your Attachment Type Defines Your Sense of Self – Daniel P. Brown, Ph.D., with Dave Asprey : 719

Jul 9, 2020

In this conversation, Dr. Daniel P. Brown, an Associate Clinical Professor at Harvard and expert in attachment theory, delves into how our attachment styles shape our sense of self and relationships. He discusses navigating dysfunctional relationships, the significance of early attachments, and offers strategies for positive remapping through visualization. Dr. Brown emphasizes the importance of self-definition and agency in personal growth, advocating for clear communication in therapy and exploring innovative approaches like biohacking to enhance emotional well-being.

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INSIGHT

Attachment Types

Four attachment types exist: secure, dismissing, preoccupied, and disorganized.
Secure attachment fosters independence, while insecure types hinder self-development and create relationship challenges.

INSIGHT

Relational Maps

Attachment maps form by 18 months and remain stable, influencing adult relationships.
Core Confident Relational Theme (CCRT) maps develop later, shaping relationship patterns and conflicts.

ADVICE

Positive Remapping

Visualize ideal parents to create new positive relationship maps, especially for insecure attachment.
Practice this visualization regularly, as consistent practice over time leads to stable positive change.

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In this episode of Bulletproof Radio, Dan Brown, Ph.D., is back to discuss the essentials of attachment and ways to identify your sense of self. You’ll learn about one Attachment Project, two types of relationship dysfunction, three versions of insecure attachment, four types of attachment, and five great functions of attachment. As a special bonus, Dr. Brown also takes listeners through a guided self-visualization during the show.

This is the second of a two-part series. Here’s the first in case you missed it: HOW EARLY CHILDHOOD ATTACHMENT SETS YOUR RELATIONSHIP PATTERNS – DANIEL P. BROWN, PH.D., WITH DAVE ASPREY – #718.

Dr. Brown has spent nearly 40 years of his career at Harvard University Medical School where he’s an Associate Clinical Professor of Psychology and teaches hypnotherapy. He’s also a Buddhist Meditation Master, and seamlessly blends Eastern and Western schools of thought.

Attachment lays the foundation for your sense of self and that informs your future relationships. “Relationships are purposeful. We select unconsciously to play out the same old conflict over and over again rather than working it out,” says Dr. Brown.

But you can change the pattern.

Self-development “starts with self-definition, knowing who you are, knowing what qualities represent the best self,” Dr. Brown says. “Then the next thing is what's called self-agency. What makes you feel like you have an impact on the environment around you, the world around you, in general. And then more specifically, that you have an impact on relationships with others. You're actually eliciting the kind of responses you want in relationship with others. So that's called self-agency. And the third is self-esteem, feeling good about yourself.”

This episode gives you helpful techniques and tools. You’ll also get tips on what to look for in a therapist and find out why it’s important to choose someone who will move beyond talk therapy.

Enjoy the show! And get more resources at https://blog.daveasprey.com/category/podcasts/

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