4 Phases of Love We Go Through in Our Lifetime & How to Attract the Love and Relationships You Desire
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Apr 28, 2023
Discover the four unique phases of love that shape our relationships throughout life. From the initial spark of attraction to the dreams we build, each phase presents challenges and opportunities for growth. Learn how to navigate compatibility with the 'three date rule' and the importance of realistic expectations. Explore the significance of clear communication and trust in maintaining healthy connections. Embrace love as an active verb, emphasizing the need for continuous affection and understanding in our partnerships.
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Define Love
"I love you" has many meanings, causing confusion in relationships.
Define love for yourself to avoid miscommunication and false expectations.
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Discuss Love
Discuss love beyond "I love you" to understand each other's expectations.
Consider what love means to you before expressing or receiving it.
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Four Phases of Love
Love progresses through four phases: attraction, dreams, struggle/growth, and trust.
These phases help understand love, define it for yourself, and articulate feelings.
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In 'Eight Rules of Love', Jay Shetty offers a comprehensive guide to navigating every stage of romance, from first dates to breakups. The book emphasizes the importance of self-love, mutual growth, and intentional effort in relationships. It provides practical advice and exercises inspired by ancient Vedic principles and modern psychology.
Today, I am going to share with you another snippet from my latest book, 8 Rules of Love. This time, we will talk about the definition of love.
Rule #3: Define Love Before You Think It, Feel It, Or Say It - in this chapter we break down the different phases of love and dating, the pitfalls that often lead to breakups, and the steps we can take to be more present in the relationship and form deep connections with the other person.
You can order my new book 8 RULES OF LOVE at 8rulesoflove.com or at a retail store near you. You can also get the chance to see me live on my first ever world tour. This is a 90 minute interactive show where I will take you on a journey of finding, keeping and even letting go of love. Head to jayshettytour.com and find out if I'll be in a city near you. Thank you so much for all your support - I hope to see you soon.
Key Takeaways:
00:00 Intro
03:02 Rule #3: Define love before you think it, feel it, or say it
09:39 The Four Phases of Love - We rarely elaborate when we tell other people we love them
14:03 Phase 1 - Attraction - In phase one, we feel a spark of intrigue, interest and attraction
20:14 The Three Date Rule - Three dates usually provide enough time to determine compatibility
31:35 Phase 2 - Dreams - We strive to dismantle false expectations and focus on realistic expectations
32:11 False Expectations - We often have a checklist of the qualities our partners should have
35:52 Rhythms and Routines - Instead of chasing the dream of what might be, spend time to get to know the other person
43:31 Phase 3 - Struggle and Growth - Confronting differences and disappointments and putting in the effort to resolve them
48:18 Phase 4 - Trust - The growth that you go through together builds into trust
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