The Baffling Behavior Show {Parenting after Trauma}

Ep. 156: Oppositional And Defiant Behavior- Part 1

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Oct 10, 2023

Discover how oppositional behavior in children often stems from feelings of unsafety. Explore the link between a child's nervous system and their actions, highlighting that these behaviors can indeed make sense. The focus shifts from merely changing behavior to fostering connection and safety. Understand that the label of Oppositional Defiant Disorder is just a starting point; staying curious about underlying causes is essential for effective treatment. Join the conversation on creating a nurturing environment for healing and regulation.

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Oppositional Behavior and Protection Mode

Oppositional behavior stems from a nervous system in protection mode.
It indicates more perceived danger than safety cues.

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When Opposition is Good

Oppositional behavior can be a healthy response to genuine danger.
It's also crucial when facing untrustworthy individuals or requests against one's values.

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Normal Opposition

Opposition is a normal human response to unwanted tasks or unmet desires.
Shifting from rest requires energy, amplified by motivation or lack thereof.

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What if oppositional behavior is a normal response to feeling unsafe? In this episode, we unfold the layers of oppositional behavior and its roots in the nervous system. We look into the diagnostic complexities of Oppositional Defiant Disorder and dive into how our own state of the nervous system is important in helping our children navigate their Watchdog and Possum pathways.

In this episode you’ll learn:

That even oppositional behaviors make total sense
Spending a lot of time in protection mode is hard on the body
Changing the behavior is not the goal- regulation, connection, and felt safety is
The diagnosis of Oppositional Defiance Disorder is just a label- we have to stay curious about the causes for treatment

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