When you have an anxious attachment style, it can be hard to know what you actually need to feel secure — especially if past relationships have left you second-guessing yourself or trying to manage your anxiety by suppressing your needs.

In this episode, we’re exploring five key ingredients that help anxiously attached people thrive in relationships. These aren’t about seeking constant reassurance or outsourcing your self-worth — they’re about being in relational environments that support security, growth, and genuine connection.

What we cover in this episode:

How consistency supports nervous system regulation and builds trust over time
The importance of emotional validation in helping you feel understood and connected
Why clear and reliable communication matters more than constant contact
The role of safe conflict in creating long-term security and repair
How having a shared vision helps settle the fear of uncertainty and misalignment

Whether you’re currently dating or in a relationship, this episode will help you get clearer on what’s supportive for you — and how to recognise when your needs are being met versus when you’re stuck in a cycle of over-functioning or hoping for crumbs.

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#198: What Anxiously Attached People Need to Thrive in a Relationship