Men in the Arena - Christian Men's Podcast No More Christian Nice Guy w/ Paul Coughlin EP 316
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Feb 6, 2020 Paul Coughlin, a bestselling author and anti-bullying expert, discusses his groundbreaking book that challenges the harmful 'niceness doctrine' taught in churches. He shares his transformative journey away from people-pleasing and highlights the importance of being both strong and emotionally expressive. Through humor and honest dialogue, Paul explains how niceness can undermine healthy relationships and resist necessary change. He also emphasizes the need for assertiveness in marriage and the importance of integrity in a man's life.
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Study Jesus' Toughness And Tenderness
- Stop treating Jesus as merely a comforting, passive figure and study the full, demanding portrait in the Gospels.
- Embrace Jesus' toughness alongside his love to live a robust, courageous faith.
The Niceness Doctrine Undermines Strength
- The "niceness doctrine" teaches only comfortable, non-confrontational parts of the gospel and expects reciprocity for being nice.
- Paul Coughlin warns this doctrine leaves men vulnerable to exploitation and undermines their God-given role to act courageously.
Told To Be 'Nothing Heroic' In Church
- Paul recounts hearing a pastor tell a congregation to be "nothing heroic," which shocked him.
- He felt that message misrepresented Jesus and promoted a damaging meekness in churches.
