581: Paul Rabil (The LeBron James of Lacrosse) - Never Missing a Day, Goal Setting, The Voice No One Hears, and The Difference Between Self-Promotion & Passion (The Way of The Champion)
Paul Rabil, known as The LeBron James of Lacrosse, shares insights on never missing a day of practice, the power of goal setting, focusing on what you can control, letting go of outcomes, and the difference between self-promotion and passion. The discussion also delves into therapy, seeking comfort and safety in relationships, and the dynamics of family business in sports ownership.
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Quick takeaways
Consistent effort towards daily goals, like shooting 100 shots, builds long-term success and commitment.
Focusing on controllable efforts, not outcomes, is essential for achieving success and maintaining resilience.
Deep dives
Athlete's Mindset and Goal-Setting Framework
Setting big, scary goals is essential for success, reflecting the athlete's mindset. An example shared is shooting 100 shots daily, a ritual to enhance skill and commitment. This daily grind builds towards achieving long-term goals, emphasizing the importance of consistent effort over time.
Understanding Outcome-Based Goals
Distinguishing between outcome-based and process-oriented goals is crucial. Examples from John Wooden and an archery master highlight focusing on efforts within one's control rather than fixating on outcomes. The approach of focusing on the present moment and controllable actions is emphasized.
Champion's Response to Adversity
Adversity is inevitable, and the response defines champions. Utilizing self-talk and rebound goals, athletes navigate tough moments by acknowledging their past successes and skill level. Highlighted is the importance of loving challenging situations, as they offer opportunities for growth and resilience.
Passion vs. Self-Promotion
Differentiating passion from self-promotion is crucial in effectively showcasing one's work. Encouraging individuals to express their love for their work authentically rather than focusing on appealing to others. The value of genuine passion and sharing it to create connections and foster community is underscored.
Never Miss a Day – In the summer, going into Paul's freshman year of high school, he was at a lacrosse camp at Loyola University… At the end of the morning session, an all-time coaching legend, Tony Seaman spoke to the group. He told them he could guarantee that they could earn a college scholarship. All they had to do? "Take 100 shots per day. Here's the catch. You can never miss a day. No excuses." What are your 100 shots a day?
Goal Setting – Most people don’t set goals because the act alone is both a major and personal step in the direction of commitment, and it invites hope, fear, and the possibility of regret.
Focus on what you can control – John Wooden was 5’10. Below average for a basketball player. He was really good at “understanding the things at which he had no control and things over which I had some control.”
Let Go of Outcomes – Archery master Awa Kenzo told his students to pay no attention to the target. Success and failure come from the same place, so that’s where the archer should point all of their attention: not on the outcome, but the effort.
Therapy– Dr. Lindsey Hoskins once said that when we hurt someone we love, it’s because we fear disconnection from that someone. We hope that by lashing out, they’ll show us love, and as a result, we’ll feel safer in the relationship.”
The Difference Between Self-Promotion and Passion - "I’m not going to convince you to like what I do. I’m going to show you how much I love what I do.”
You won't achieve ambitious goals if you don’t set ambitious goals.
The legendary Michael Ovitz shotgun pitch to Coca-Cola. He and his team outworked the competition, flew in a day early, practiced in the actual room the pitch would take place, bought new suits, and over-delivered during the pitch meeting. Their competitors took the meeting for granted, flew in the morning of, and didn't perform. Michael and his team won the $300m contract and earned the business for years to come.
A true champion is intensely focused on the things they can control.
Being coachable is rare—it’s being curious, eager, self-aware, and ambitious.
Discover and harness your unique learning style. What might appear as an inability or perceived disadvantage could be your greatest asset in mastering your chosen field. For example, Paul grew up with a learning difference called Auditory Processing Disorder.
The only way to learn from failures is to feel it, study them, make adjustments, a new commitment, and put it behind you.
The Voice No One Else Hears – Performance psychologist Jim Loehr has worked with some of the top athletes in the world. He has them wear a microphone during a competition, and he asks them to honestly articulate what the voice in their head says and thinks. Whatever the circumstances, Loehr said he asks, “Is this how I would speak to someone I deeply care about? Or, if I were speaking to someone I deeply cared about, what would I say?”
"I've been here before."
"I've taken 35,000 shots."
Rebound... Bounce back.
Paul loves the "up and down" statistic in golf. It refers to a golfer recovering from a bad shot and still making a par on the hole. In life, it's all about how you choose to respond.
Paul’s Brother, Mike - “One of my favorite chapters in this book is about planting “little acorns.” (p.174) Had it not been for the biggest acorn in the family, who left his job to build the PLL with me... well, I’d just be a retired athlete, continuing the pursuit of my next professional life. Thank you for everything, Mike.”
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