Husband Material Am I An Abusive Man? (with Dr. Andrew Bauman)
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Mar 24, 2025 Dr. Andrew Bauman, founder of the Christian Counseling Center and author, delves into the uncomfortable yet vital topics of abuse and personal growth. He clarifies the nuances of abusive behavior and emphasizes the importance of acknowledging internal trauma. The discussion covers what it means to be a 'good and safe' man, exploring self-awareness and emotional regulation. He also highlights the balance between humility and self-hatred while discussing workshops aimed at empowering men to confront fears and build healthier relationships.
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Personal Struggles with Abuse
- Dr. Andrew Bauman recounts his 13-year struggle with pornography and its impact on his relationships with women.
- He highlights how this led to objectification and using women to soothe personal wounds, hindering his ability to be a "good and safe man".
Spectrum of Abuse
- Dr. Bauman introduces the "spectrum of an abuser", categorizing abusers into the "unaware fool" and the "narcissistic coward".
- He clarifies that the majority of men fall into the "unaware fool" category.
Pornography as Abuse
- Pornography, even occasional use, is a form of abuse due to its objectification of individuals.
- It reinforces the harmful belief that others are less than and exist for personal gratification.