How To Fail With Elizabeth Day Suzi Ruffell - ‘I didn’t know I was gay until I saw Titanic’
Jul 9, 2025
Comedian Suzi Ruffell, known for her sellout runs at the Edinburgh Fringe and appearances on Live at the Apollo, shares her journey of self-discovery. She reveals how iconic films like Titanic influenced her understanding of her sexuality. As she discusses the intersection of comedy and identity, Suzi reflects on the pressures of the stand-up scene, her experiences with anxiety, and the importance of genuine connections in her life. With humor and candor, she encourages embracing authenticity and individuality.
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I Didn't Know I Was Gay Until I Saw Titanic
Suzi Ruffell discovered her sexuality watching the movie Titanic at age 12, realizing she was gay through the character of Kate Winslet, who embodied confidence and ownership of her sexuality.
She describes a journey of confusion, self-denial, and fear of rejection, engaging in straight relationships and suppressing her true self for years before finally coming out at 21.
Suzi also shares how societal representation of queer people during her youth was limited and negative, making it hard to envision happy queer lives.
Her story highlights the importance of visibility, acceptance, and how media can deeply impact personal identity and self-acceptance.
Titanic Sparked Sexual Awakening
- Suzi Ruffell discovered she was gay after watching "Titanic" seven times at age 12.
- Kate Winslet's character empowered her understanding of her sexuality and identity.
Fitting In and Defense Mechanism
- Suzi struggled to fit in due to her sexuality and dyslexia, using humor as a defense.
- She purposely avoided friendships to hide her true self and vulnerability.