Abigail Shrier discusses the harm therapy can do to kids, including the impact of puberty blockers on IQ and health. They cover topics like social media's effect on kids' mental health, the rise in therapy for children, and the debate on social emotional learning in schools. They also explore childhood trauma, resilience, and the impact of smartphones on teen mental health.
Childhood trauma can have lasting impacts but resilience is common, distinguishing severe trauma from everyday challenges is crucial.
Psychotherapy often explores childhood events but lacks empirical evidence for direct causality in shaping adult behavior.
Deep dives
Trauma in Childhood and Behavioral Impacts on Adults
Childhood trauma is discussed in adult retrospective studies where traumatic experiences are believed to influence adult behavior. However, evidence shows that adult perspectives on childhood trauma may be influenced by present struggles rather than direct causal links. While severe trauma can leave lasting impacts, studies indicate that resilience is common and that interpreting childhood events as traumatic may exacerbate adult struggles. The distinction between severe trauma and commonplace life challenges is crucial in understanding its lasting effects.
Psychotherapy and Childhood Trauma
Psychotherapy often delves into childhood experiences to decipher adult behavior, with Freudian concepts suggesting early-life events shape adult personalities. The difficulty lies in the lack of empirical evidence proving direct causality between childhood events and adult behaviors. The concept of childhood trauma remains speculative in psychiatric contexts, as retrospective analysis and personal experiences form the basis of therapeutic explorations into early-life events.
Emotional Regulation and Therapeutic Approaches
Educational programs focusing on emotional regulation, such as social emotional learning (SEL), aim to equip children with coping skills and self-awareness. However, studies indicate that forced discussions on past trauma or negative feelings in therapeutic contexts can lead to increased mental health struggles in children. Approaches like mindfulness and breath work may not always effectively address emotional challenges, potentially exacerbating issues.
Perceptions of Trauma and Coping Mechanisms
Not all perceived childhood traumas have lasting negative impacts, as resilience and coping mechanisms play a pivotal role in how individuals navigate early-life challenges. While severe trauma can leave indelible scars, commonplace life difficulties may not necessarily translate to lifelong psychological issues. Understanding the nuanced differences between severe trauma and everyday life adversities is crucial when assessing the lasting effects of childhood experiences.
Abigail is an independent journalist and author. Her first book, Irreversible Damage: The Transgender Craze Seducing Our Daughters, was a bestseller, and her new book is a bestseller even the NYT has had to recognize eventually. It’s called Bad Therapy: Why The Kids Aren’t Growing Up. She also has a substack, The Truth Fairy. Check it out.
For two clips of our convo — on the news of UK restricting puberty blockers, and the harm that therapy can do to normal kids — pop over to our YouTube page. Other topics: the brittle bones and teeth-splitting that result from puberty blockers; their effect on IQ; when blockers are necessary; the suicide canard with trans kids; the radio silence around Bostock; how 40 percent of kids are in some form of therapy — “awash in psychopathology”; kids publicizing their mental health on social media; How to Talk So Kids Will Listen; the work of Haim Ginott; “neurotic hovering parents” who rarely correct bad behavior; parents giving up authority; dysregulated kids; Abigail’s upbringing; my tumultuous childhood; Gabor Maté; drug addiction and childhood trauma; iatrogenesis; smartphones; Covid; social emotional learning; why breathwork and mindfulness doesn’t work for kids; how SSRIs can kill adolescent sex drive as it’s developing; Richard Bing’s study on convicts and PTSD; the benefits of therapy for adults; psychotherapy as a literary practice; how therapy has filled the void of religion; kids rushing to become “LGBTQ” because it’s valorized; gay kids today are more accepted but more miserable; the parents who use their trans kids as props; the benefits of same-sex schools; the spike in days off for mental health; and the current cover-story by Andrea Long Chu.
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