Intro

You’ve been there: the dreaded text fight.

One message gets misread, emotions spike, and suddenly you’re both typing paragraphs instead of actually talking.

In this episode, we’re breaking down a real-life text fight between a couple navigating mismatched sex drives, rejection, and the heavy mental load of parenting. You’ll hear the raw back-and-forth and get our thoughts on what worked, what didn’t, and how to move these conversations toward connection instead of conflict.

💛 In this episode, you’ll learn:

• Why so many couples end up fighting about sex over text (and why it almost never goes well).

• Why text is the worst place to argue (and how to get out of the spiral).

• The hidden emotional needs behind “yes” and “no.”

• How to express hurt feelings without slipping into blame.

• How to validate your partner without abandoning your own boundaries.

• Communication tips that will help you feel heard and understood — even in the heat of the moment.

If you’ve ever found yourself stuck in a text fight with your partner, this one’s for you.

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