The definition of a “win” is different in high conflict situations as opposed to ordinary conflict. Not recognizing that a win looks quite different can inadvertently escalate conflict or take a few steps backwards.
In today’s episode, Megan and Bill talk about:
- defining what it means to “win” in high conflict
- do you need to reach an expected outcome to have success
- temptation to keep going when you should stop
- when do you know if you’ve won
- choosing your battles
- avoid opening up emotions
- focusing on keeping people focused on thinking and doing
Links & Other Notes
Note: We are not diagnosing anyone in our discussions, merely discussing patterns of behavior.
- (00:00) - Welcome to It's All Your Fault
- (01:26) - How to Avoid Sabotaging a Successful Interaction
- (02:34) - Definition of a Win in High Conflict Situations
- (05:11) - Choosing Your Battles
- (07:06) - Praise vs. Opening Up Emotions
- (09:26) - Making Progress, Not Perfection
- (12:13) - Fuhgedaboudits
- (17:42) - Blame as Indicator
- (20:31) - Coming Next Week: Exposure and Humiliation as a High-Conflict Strategy
