It is the antithesis of empathy. It's really looking at the other individual, either accurately or inaccurately, as somebody that of despise. And then it is an absolute inversion of the audonomic sesaw matching that i was talking about before. They're very excited about something, you're unexcited by it. So its it's a basically a inversion of all of the neural circuits that helen fisher and others have identified as critical for desire, love and attachment. Therefore it's not a surprising that itis so strongly predictive of break ups and, in the case of married couples, of divorce.

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