The Third Basic Metacogntive Skill

If we don't develop the capacity of understanding other people's expression and how that reflext what our experience is, then you've always been able to do it. The expectation actually is that those spontaneous, authentic expressions will not be met by delight in the other person. And then also that back and forth a child expresses er, they can experience the effect that anger has on the expression of the care giver. So when you're mentalizing at that level, you understand what your experience is, and that's been divine defined in reflection to your early experiences with the care so you'll notice in people with secure functioning that they experience themselves as capable and competent.