i've had a long term, on and off again relationship that asn't the healthiest. But then i also know that i am somebody who has a lot of long term relationships,. um, of the non romantic variety, that are very meaningful in my life. You know, one of my greatest gifts and also biggest challenges, is im persistent. I was in a marriage for 20 years. It was awful for me. And so yes, i'm capable of being in a longterm, painful relationship, but that's nonnecessarily a good thing. So i think it's ok to be selfish in the sense that, does it fit? Really know what you want in a relationship