We have all been there. We’ve all had moments where stress seems to take over and we react in ways we regret later.

It might be raising your voice at a teacher or student. It might be overreacting during an argument with a loved one.

Later, we usually have regrets and we ask ourselves, “WHY DID I DO THAT?” This is often due to something called an amygdala hijack, a term coined by psychologist Daniel Goleman in his book Emotional Intelligence.

We have stressful jobs. The stakes are high. So many people are watching us and we are setting the example for what great leadership looks like. We cannot afford to let our amygdala hijack our brain and then just “hope for the best”.

On today’s episode of The Private School Leader Podcast, we are going to talk about How To Avoid "Amygdala Hijack" In High Stress Situations.

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TRANSCRIPT:

Welcome to the private school Leader podcast, where private school leaders learn how to thrive and not just survive as they serve and lead their schools. I strongly believe that it is possible to have a long and happy and fulfilling career as a private school leader. And my passion is to help you figure out exactly how to do just that right here on the private school leader podcast. And I'm your host, Mark Minkus. • • • So, we've all been there, • • • • and • • we have all had moments • • where stress seems to just take over, • • and we just react in ways that we regret later. • • • And you might be thinking of a situation right now, and it might be that you raised your voice at a teacher • • or at a student or a board member in a meeting. • • • It might be that you or I overreacted during a conversation, argument with someone that we care about. • • • And then later, we usually have regrets, and we're like, why did I do that? • • Well, • • • the answer is very often • • due to something called • • amygdala hijack. • • And that's a term coined by psychologist Daniel Goleman in his excellent book emotional intelligence. • • • And so we have stressful jobs as private school leaders. The stakes are high, • • and we can't afford to let our, uh, amygdalas hijack our brains and then just hope for the best and hope we can apologize later. • • • • And so on today's episode of the private school Leader podcast, we are going to talk about how to avoid amygdala hijack in high stress situations. • • •

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And before we jump into that, I just want to tell you about a new and free resource that I've created for you. I'm pretty excited about it. It's called the seven secrets to improving teacher morale. • And I talk to a lot of leaders. Um, I coach a lot of leaders, and teacher morale is a big challenge at a lot of our schools. And • • I think you need a plan, and this is a plan for you, a step by step guide that you can grab it. It's free@theprivateschoolleader.com. morale. It's called the seven secrets to improving teacher morale. It's a starting point. It's going to be hard work, but it will work, and I hope that you will get that, and I hope that you, • um, will use it.

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Four steps to avoid amygdala hijack in high stress situations

So let's talk amygdala hijack. And then I want to give you the four steps to avoiding amygdala hijack in high stress situations. • Let me hit you with those four. And then we'll define it, and then we'll get break down each one. So number one is pause. • Number two is embrace the space. • • Number three is respond, don't react. And number four is regulate your autonomic nervous system. So we're going to pause, embrace, respond, and regulate. • • •

Private school leaders often get their amygdala hijacked when faced with potential danger

So what is amygdala hijack? I know that a lot of you know what this is, • • but I think it's super important to pause and view this through the lens of what you deal with every single day as a private school leader. • • • And you know that the amygdala is part of your brain that's responsible for processing emotions, • • but especially those emotions that are related to fear • • and threats and survival. • • • And let's face it, our brains • • are really, really good at automatically trying to protect us from danger. • • • I remember one time I was on a senior retreat • and, um, a couple other teachers with me, one of them was, um, one of our, um, • • um, gym teachers. • And she's up there and we're on this high ropes course, • • • • • and, um, moving through the high ropes course, • • • and she went to take a step • • • and her brain • sent a message to her legs, and her legs turned into stone. • • Her legs couldn't have moved no matter what she did, because the brain was saying, there's no way you're stepping out on that telephone pole that's 40ft in the air. • • Our brains • • protect us from danger. • • And so the amygdala is your brain's alarm system. • • And if you're faced with a threat or a perceived threat, then we know the amygdala takes over, and it throws you right into fight or flight. And sometimes people call it fight, flight, or freeze. • • • Sometimes we freeze. • • • But • • your brain and your body is flooded with cortisol. • • • And there's some good things about fight or flight because, you know, your heart rate goes up and it pushes blood to the extremities. And I, um. Your vision actually narrows, and your body becomes this hyper, • • • um, • • optimized • • • • • • • • • vehicle, um, • • • for fleeing danger. • • • • • But the problem is • • • • that • we're not being chased by a bear when we're at our school, • • • • • • • and we just keep running, • • and the cortisol just keeps flowing, • • • • and we can't get away from the bear. • • • And so your brain • • gets hijacked by the amygdala • that is sensing danger • • • • but is looking around your office and doesn't really see the bear, doesn't see the lion. • • • • And, you know, this is something that, um, you know, happens a lot, • where we • • get our amygdala hijacked. And that works great if you're out in the woods and an animal's chasing you, but it's not so great • • • when you're at work, in a boardroom meeting, in a meeting in our office with a parent, or having a conflict at home with your partner or spouse, • • • • and an amygdala hijack your rational brain, the prefrontal cortex completely bypassed. We're acting on emotion and not reason when our brains are hijacked by the amygdala. And then we are impulsive and we yell or we say things that we don't mean, or we make decisions that are not in the best interest of ourselves or our school. • • And hopefully, it doesn't happen very often. But I'll tell you what. I'm, um, worried that it's happening more and more often to more and more private school leaders because we're under more and more stress, • • more and more demands. When you do the impossible, it becomes part of your job description, and I just wonder where all that cortisol is supposed to go. • • • • • • And so the good news is that if you follow these four steps, • • you can reduce the amount • • and the • intensity • • of amygdala. Ah. • • Hijack.

Step one is to pause when you're upset or stressed

So, let's get into it. Step one is pause. • • • • • • • So, this sounds simple, but in the heat of the moment, pausing is so hard to do because we want to just react. • • • • • But pausing gives your brain a chance to catch up • • • and maybe switch gears. • • • And then when you feel that stress rising. • • • And it could be. • • • • • It could be like a wave. You know, sometimes it feels like a wave of anger. • • • There's a lot to be angry about. You know, it might be righteous indignation. • • • • There's. It, uh, could be a wave of anxiety. • • • • • • • • There's, uh, a lot of things to worry about in our schools, • • but we need to take a moment to pause before you say anything or before you do anything. And I realize that's so easy to say and so hard to do, but the pause • • • is so important. • • • • And so the reason that the pause is so important • • • • • • • is because when we pause, • • • we can actually stop the amygdala from completely hijacking the way that we respond to a situation. • • • • • • And that pause can help us • • • shift from an emotional reaction to a more • • measured, • • rational, thoughtful • • response. • • • • You know, • • • • I was born in the late sixties. I grew up in the, you know, the seventies and the eighties. And • • • • • • I think that people my age, or maybe even a little younger than me, • • just your mom or your dad always just, you know, said, count to ten. You know, count to ten. • I have a twin sister and we were always • • fighting about something and, you know, count to ten. • • • Well, • • • • • • • • what was mom or dad? My mom or dad, your parent guardian. Your mom or dad, what were they trying to get you to do? They're trying to get you to pause. • • • And so what it does is that it creates a little bit of space. And we're going to talk about that space in just a moment, but it creates a space between the trigger and your next move, • • • • • between stimulus and response. And again, that's what we're going to talk about in step two. So just one last thing • • • • • • • • I mentioned when I was born, • • • I know all about VCR's, • • • I know all about the pause button, I know what be kind rewind means. • • • Um, but, you know, even on Netflix, on Amazon, whatever you're watching, • • • there's a pause button. • • • • • And, you know, it might be there's a knock at the door or the dogs are barking or the kids need something or whatever. You're watching a movie and you just pause it, right? • • • Everyone knows what pause is on the movie. • • • • • But why don't we ever try to reach for that pause button in life? • • • Well, I think it's because • • • • when we're typically sitting on a couch in our comfortable clothes watching a movie, we're nothing. You know, having our body completely flooded with cortisol, • • that makes our judgment poor. • • • But again, if you can think about just the pause button • • when you're hit with something that's super stressful, • • just pause. • • • And just a quick example or two of that is a teacher comes at you and they're all fired up and they present you a problem and they want an answer, and they want it now. You know, that could be a parent or a teacher. • • • And again, • • to pause. • • And instead of just reacting and giving an answer right then or making a promise or • • saying something that you'll later regret, • • • • • • how about we say, you know what? I need to think about that, and I'll get back to you with an answer by the end of the day. • • • • • Sometimes that's hard, isn't it? • • Because we're known for solving problems. We're known for our efficiency. We're known for being quick with our solving of problems. We talked about that on last week's episode. • • • • • But I feel strongly, and I know you do, too, it's just a matter of whether we can actually do it, is that we should never • • respond • • • and make that promise when we're • upset. • • • • And I hope that you all agree with this next statement. And is that is never • immediately respond to an email or a text when you are upset. I • when you're in that moment, when you're just • • angry, you're upset. There are so many things that can trigger us in our jobs. There are so many times that a teacher can be frustrating. It's like, I, uh, told you seven times, and now you're still doing the thing, or the student, or especially the parent. And it's like, seriously? • • I did this. I did that. I did 17 things for this parent, and now they're still ungrateful, unhappy, and complaining about this thing. Now, it's so easy to fire off that response, and we almost always regret it. So we need to pause. • • •

Viktor Frankl says between stimulus and response, there is a space

All right, number two step number two is embrace the space. • • There's a famous quote by Viktor Frankl. It's one of my favorite quotes. • He's a Holocaust survivor and a psychiatrist. He's the author of the book man's Search for meaning. • He was a. • • • He was a prisoner at the • • terrible, um, • • Auschwitz concentration camp. • • • And Viktor Frankl, in his book, man's search for meaning, said, • • • between stimulus and response, there is a space. • And in that space is our power to choose our response. And in our response lies our growth and our freedom. • • • • • • • Now, m, I want you to think about • • • a mandev that's in a concentration camp, • • • • • and the Nazis are controlling • everything in his life. They killed his family. • • • • They were starving him. • They were putting him through • • extreme conditions as far as temperature • • • and frostbite • and • hard labor, • • • • • and the way that he survived • • • • • the Holocaust. • • • • • • • He sums up by saying, between stimulus and response, there is a space. • • In that space is our power to choose our response. In our response lies our growth and our freedom. The ability to choose equals freedom. • • • • • And so what we're striving for here today with this amygdala hijack is • • a little bit of choice, a little bit of control in the midst of that • • • • • emotional, um, • • • • wave after wave that is trying to control our behavior. And so • • we want to embrace the space. • • • So we talked about pausing, • • • and now we're embracing the space. And • • • • • • that space that Viktor Frankl refers to is just what allows us to act with intention • • rather than a reflex. • • • • • We can act with intention instead of with a, uh, reflex. • • And so once you've paused, • • you can now embrace the space • • and reflect, even if it's just for a second, what is actually happening here? How am I feeling? What is the best way to respond? And I know that that space might be a second, it might be a second and a half. • • • • But if we can pause and we can embrace that space, and we can embrace the power • • that is in that space, • • it's our power • • to choose our response. That's what Viktor Frankl said. In that space is our power to choose our response. I think that amygdala hijack usually takes our power away. • • • • We got to get that power back. How do we get the power to choose? • • • It's the pause, and then it's embracing the space. And in that space, you're not a victim of your emotions. Your emotions are not in control. They're no longer driving the bus. • You want your emotions to be a passenger on the bus, but you want to be the one with the steering wheel in your hands, in your control, • • • and that cortisol that's flooding your body, it takes away our clarity. • • • And we need clarity before we respond. In our jobs as private school leaders, don't we? • • We need clarity. • • • • Just remember that ability to choose equals freedom. • And so, again, a quick example is a parent says something that offends you. I've had that happen. You've had that happen. • And instead of reacting instantly, • • • • we just take that pause, and we embrace that space. • • And in the span of a few seconds, we just say to ourselves, is this really worth getting upset over? • • • • • Consider the source, because that parent's going to say something to offend you two weeks from now, right? • • • • • • • • What outcome do I want from this interaction? What is best for this person's child? That's the big one that works for me, is that when I want to react when I want to say something, • I think about that person's kid. • • • That kid didn't choose their parents. • • • • And sometimes, • • • • I mean, we've got some really tough parents, right? Some. That 5%, I'll try to remember. I'll link that, um, episode, the 5% of parents that are trying to destroy your school. I'll link that in the show notes at the private school leader.com episode 106. • • • The five percenters, they're really tough when it comes to Amygdala. Hijack. • • • What works for me is I think about their kid. They didn't choose the parent. They didn't choose a parent that acts that way. • • • Sometimes. The school is the best thing that ever happened to that kid. • And so sometimes thinking about what's best for the child will help us • • to embrace the space. • • • Okay, • • • step three • • on our list of four strategies • • to, uh, four steps to • • • not, um, • • give in to amygdala. Hijack. Step three is respond, • • don't react.

Step three is respond, don't react. Think about the difference between responding and reacting

So, once we've paused • and embraced the space, now it's time to choose our response. So I want you to think about the word react. So, again, this step three is respond, don't react. But let's think about the word react for a moment. • • A reaction. Some of the synonyms, it's automatic. It's a reflex. • • • It implies emotional. You know, when you're at the doctor for your annual physical, you know, I don't know about you, but he still does. The little hammer on my knee, and my knee goes flying up in there. • • A, uh, reflex, • you know, we're not in control of that. It just happens. But when something is automatic, when something. When we react, how often do we regret it later? When we respond, how often do we regret it later? I'm going to tell you in my life, when I react, regrets, a lot of them. When I respond, regrets, very few. • • • • So we're thinking about the difference between responding and reacting. And so that word respond • implies that it's thoughtful and intentional. It's something that we're, you know, that we're thinking about, that we're working through. • • • • Respond, • don't react. • • And when you respond, • you've taken the time to assess the situation and maybe even consider some options. And again, • viewing this through the lens of a private school leader, we have so many things coming at us, so many different directions, • • high stakes, stressful job, • • a lot of balls in the air, a lot of things on our plate, however you want to describe it. And then these things come at us. • • We're already stressed out. • • • • • Do we respond or do we react? • • • • • • • • I don't know about you, but I react, • • • • • but I'm trying to respond more often. • • • • • • • • Just. And then, you know, when we respond, we're not at the mercy our amygdala. • • And I want, uh, the one thing, and I put this in caps in my notes. I just want everyone to get this. We cannot respond to emotion with emotion. • • Okay, I'm going to say that again. • • • Think about this, especially as it relates to meeting with parents, sometimes meeting with teachers. • • • • • We cannot respond to emotion with emotion. • • • Now, I know that you try to respond to an emotional parent with logic and reason. They don't always want to hear it, but if we match their emotion, it's not going to be a good conversation. We can't respond to emotion with emotion. • • • • • • So by responding, instead of reacting, we can try to have a little bit of control over the situation and a little bit of control over our emotions.

Step three is to regulate your autonomic nervous system during stress

And then that brings us to step four, which is to regulate your autonomic nervous system. • • • • • • • • So when we're in a high stress situation, I've already talked about how • • amygdala hijack. It's really your autonomic nervous system kicking into high gear, triggering that fight or flight response. Your heart rate goes up, your breathing becomes more shallow. • • Stress, um, • • hormone cortisol, flows through your body. • The blood flows to your extremities so that you can run faster. • • • • • But if we're regulating our autonomic nervous system, we're basically telling our brain, I'm not in danger, so we can relax. • • • • • • • • And you're like, yeah, I can't really trick my brain when it's doing something automatic, but • • • I want to talk to you about a couple of things that can really help. • • • • • • So when we're trying to. When we're trying to do, • um, a couple of techniques to, • • • • • to just say • to, I'm going to talk about nematodainment in a minute, but, um, when we're trying to get out of that amygdala, hijack. • • What we're trying to do is to tell our brain that we're safe. • • The brain thinks we're not safe. • • • We gotta get out of there, okay? We gotta get out of the amygdala and get into that prefrontal cortex. So how are some ways to do that? Okay, first of all, deep breathing. • • Take a few • • • • slow, deep breaths. • Inhale through your nose, exhale through your mouth, especially if it's pursed lips. • • • • Um, one of the things that has helped me in the past is a thing called the physiological sigh. • • • • Um, I'll link, a YouTube video. It's like, I don't know, a minute or two minutes long. • • Physiological sigh is a big, deep breath and then another quick little breath at the. The top and just to really fill up those lungs. • • • • • • • • • Another thing that helps, another technique to • • regulate your autonomic nervous system are called grounding techniques. • • • And that's when you focus on your senses, like what you can see or hear or feel, feel your feet, your butt on the chair, your hands on your thighs. It just kind of brings your attention back to this present moment, and. And it can kind of help to reduce those feelings of overwhelm and, • um, other things that are caused by the amygdala hijack. And what I like to do, what's really worked for me, is to combine breathing and grounding. • • And I do 54321. And I've talked about it before, but I'll give it to you real quick. I do this. It takes less than two minutes • • if I'm really stressed out at school. • • • • • • • • So you start with your eyes open, sitting comfortably, and you take • • • • • • • • a deep breath in. • • • And then you something you see, five things you see, four things you hear after you close your eyes. Three things you, • • • • um, feel, two things you smell, and one thing you taste. Okay, so I'll just walk you through it quickly. So, • • big, deep breath in. • • • I see that clock, you know, out. Big, deep breath in. I see the doorknob. • • Breath out. Big, deep breath in. I see my computer screen. Okay, so then you close your eyes, and four things. Big breath in. I hear • • the air conditioner, you know, and then three • • • • things, um, • you feel. You know, I feel my butt on the chair. I feel my feet on the floor. I feel the little pain in my knee from working out this morning. • • Uh, two things you smell and one thing you taste • • when you do that. Big breath in. Big breath out. You're grounding yourself. You're doing deep breathing. I don't know about you. It might be worth a try. It really works for me. • • Um, is combining those two • • • and then two more strategies real quick for regulating, um, • • your autonomic nervous system, • engage the prefrontal cortex. Um, and that would be, um, some people, I know a couple of people that this works really well for them is mathematic. They just start doing multiplication tables • • • or two digit or three digit, um, addition in their head. Okay, mental math. Because then you're going to move all of that action in your brain from the amygdala and throw it up to the prefrontal cortex, and that's where you want it. To be. • • • And the way to get there is some mental math. • • You know, what's eleven times four? What's six times seven? What's the, um, four times • • six? • • Those are the things that can just immediately get you out of that. • • It's worth a try. And then the last one is name it to tame it. And for me, this works really well. If I'm sitting in my office and it's 03:00 and I'm, like, really, really anxious and stressed out and there's, like, nothing going on, I'll stop and I'll ask myself, okay, why am I anxious right now? • • • And then I'll think about it and I'll look at my calendar, and then I'll be like, okay, I got this phone call. I have to make it 04:00 p.m. and that parents kind of been tough in the past, and so that's why I'm stressed out. And then I just feel better because I feel like sometimes that the, uh, amygdala, the fight or flight response is just looking for that bear and it doesn't see it. And so it. We just keep running and we keep running and we keep running. • • And so sometimes you have to name it to tame it. And once your brain knows why you're anxious, at least for me, and this has worked for other people, too, that I've coached and people that I've talked to, • • is that, um, sometimes that just releases it and • • really regulating your autonomic nervous system. We've talked about it. It's about, • • um, • • • • letting your amygdala know I'm safe. And then those responses start to fade away. • •

Today's episode discusses the four steps to avoiding amygdala hijack

So our big takeaways from today's episode, we talked about amygdala hijack • • • and how, • • • • um, it is that fight or flight response and all of the things that it does in your body. • But then we talked about the four steps to avoiding amygdala hijack. Number one, • pause. Step number two, embrace the space. • • There's a space between stimulus and response. • • Step number three, respond, don't react. And step number four, • regulate your autonomic nervous system. • • • And your call to action for today's episode is the next time your, uh, amygdala hijacks your brain, • • pause and take three deep breaths. • • • • Just see what happens. I think that we just have to have a strategy that when our amygdala hijacks our brain, that we're going to do the thing. So I don't care what the thing is, but if you have a thing, that's your go to thing, and it works for you. Then do the thing • • when the amygdala hijacks your brain, because there are a lot of private school leaders out there, and their amygdala is hijacking their brain several times a day, and they don't have a strategy to get out of that. And so that's the purpose of today's episode, is to help you get out of that. • •

I have a new resource for you called the seven secrets to improving teacher morale

And so, as I said at the top of the episode, I have a new resource for you called the seven secrets to improving teacher morale. I'd love for you to grab that. It's a free gift for you. • • You follow these • • secrets, um, • • • • uh, implement them at your school. It will be hard work, but I really believe strongly that you can improve teacher morale at your school. And you can grab that free guide over at theprivateschool leader.com morale. • And just another quick reminder about my, uh, online course that can teach you how to have a long and happy and fulfilling career as a private school leader. Everything that I've learned over 33 years of going from being in survival mode to thriving, it's all there in thrive academy for you. • • Also the office hours. Also 9 hours of video content with seven modules and 39 lessons. • • • 84 page workbook, uh, • • • • that, um, you download and print the PDF, • and you just go step by step, strategy by strategy. • • You might go through it in six days or six weeks, or it might take you a year. It's asynchronous. We've got the office hours. • • It's there for you to use the way that it works for your schedule, but it can make a huge difference for you, and you can learn more about it over@theprivatesgleader.com • thrive. • • And I'd love to hear from you. Shoot me an email at mark dot o dot minkusmail ah.com. if you've gotten help from any episode of this podcast and let me know a strategy that you're using at school, or maybe email me with your biggest pain point right now. • • Um, and I mentioned the show notes are at theprivateschool leader.com, episode 106. • • Um, I'd really appreciate it if you would rate and review the podcast wherever you listen to it. And also if you would share the link with another leader in your life or a rising leader at your school. • • Check me out on Instagram at theprivate school leader on Twitter heps leader. • And I've been your host, Mark Minkus. • • I just want to say I appreciate you so much, all the amazing hard work that you're doing for those lucky kids and those lucky teachers at your school. • • And I just appreciate you. And I appreciate you also taking some precious time out of your week to join me here today • • on the private school leader podcast. And I'll see you next time. And until then, always remember, serve first, lead second, and make a difference.

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