The Importance of Personal Responsibility in Relationships

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I can see how that person may talk to themselves very negatively and be carrying that forward into the next person that they're dating. How does someone navigate that? If based on experience they've seen or experienced the same thing over and over and over, how do they break that cycle? Well, if I was working with them, usually the story that we tell ourselves about what's happened in our past relationships, then usually what's happening is that that person does not see how their choices have negatively impacted their lives. It's seeing yourself as this wounded child that others can just abandon when really more typically what happens is you're not choosing well. You're not speaking the truth. You're hiding

Episode #273. When we think about health and wellness, what usually comes to mind is nutrition, exercise, sleep, or some other tangible metric. But what about love? In this conversation, I sit down with relationship coach Jillian Turecki to hear her insights on the power of a healthy relationship.

We discuss:

Intro (00:00)
Quality of self-love = quality of love life (2:25)
Red flags, compatibility, and being "perfect" (7:50)
Self-worth and personal responsibility (15:49)
Practices for nurturing self-love (24:45)
Confidence is key (29:41)
Dating and more red flags (36:46)
Societal pressures (45:15)
Lust and love (51:48)
Romantic relationship and loneliness (54:55)
What about getting dates in the first place? (59:04)
Honesty is king (1:08:56)
Declining of marriage rates (1:12:21)
Lasting love amidst flaws and imperfections (1:16:38)
Attachment styles (1:21:20)
Foundation of a successful relationship (1:28:14)
Supportive relationship, sex, and stress (1:31:33)\
Porn (1:37:33)
Communication mistakes and benefits of therapy (1:42:44)
Monogamy and 'alternative' relationships (1:54:13)
Why happy relationships lead to longer, healthier lives (2:01:05)
Jillian on marriage and motherhood (2:03:56)
Outro (2:05:04)

Connect with Jillian Turecki on Instagram, Twitter, and TikTok. Visit Jillian’s website to discover more about her work and discover her courses. Make sure to also check out her podcast, Jillian On Love.

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Simon

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