How to Diagnose a Disagreement

"I'm sympathetic to the idea that it can feel a bit maybe wounding reading the book but I guess my sense is that the book doesn't like come with a very grave cost," he says. "If there were no way of preventing people from you know winning somebody who's a little more somber, then we might well reasonably take some negative news and try to work with it", she adds. 'The question is how appropriate is it or to put on that responsibility on the person who gives you the bad news to help you work through how to understand it'