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The Secret To Attracting True Love That Lasts - Dating Expert Matthew Hussey

Deep Dive with Ali Abdaal

CHAPTER

Are You Labeling Attraction?

Psychologists would talk about the kind of the trauma bond that exists when we've been used to, you know, a parent that neglected us or that was very hot and cold in our lives. And so we get attracted to that behavior in others. We also have to be careful. Am I labeling this trauma and this heightened sense of anxiety that I have around you because you're fickle and you never make me feel secure? Or am I labeling that excitement? The more they don't call me the more I'm like, Oh, there's something special about this one. Why are they getting more attractive the less they try?"

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