The Sexual Response Mechanism: Accelerator and Brakes

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This chapter explores the concept of the sexual response mechanism in the brain, consisting of an excitatory system (accelerator) and an inhibitory system (brakes). It discusses how the accelerator notices sex-related information and sends a turn-on signal, while the brakes notice reasons not to be turned on and send a turn-off signal. The chapter also delves into common factors that overstimulate the brakes and hinder sexual arousal.

Sex educator Emily Nagoski reveals how to sustain passionate intimacy over the long haul with research from her groundbreaking new book, Come Together: The Science (and Art!) of Creating Lasting Sexual Connections.

She explains why pleasure trumps desire, how stress impacts connection, and the importance of open communication about desires. Emily offers practical steps to invite more pleasure into relationships as bodies change, and rejects cultural grind in favor of ease. Her insights on nourishing intimacy through pleasure can enrich partnerships when we center what truly matters.

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