Relationship Skills

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As humans, we don't get taught how to love. It's not something that weve sit and think about. But i would like to argue that we need to be taught how toLove. And you might be lucky that you have a partner who is quite in sitper and that person teaches you how to do it. Some people are stumbling on relationships and not knowing what to do,. Not knowing how to navigate. So many of us come into this thinking like, if i'm not perfect, that is my fundamental core, right? I'm not worthy of love if i’m not already perfect atlove.

Does it ever feel like you—or someone you know—is always entering a relationship that’s doomed? According to psychology researcher, Dr. Raquel Peel, you may be falling victim to a surprising foe—yourself. Raquel studies “romantic self-sabotage,” the patterns and behaviors that can keep a person from having successful relationships, or justify their failures. In this episode, she outlines common destructive habits to watch out for, and gives guidance on how to recover if you spiral into sabotage. Raquel is a Psychology and Counselling Lecturer at the University of Southern Queensland. Her research interests include relationships, suicide, bullying, stigma, medical education and research methodology. Originally from Brazil, Raquel currently lives in Brisbane, Australia, with her husband Matthew, their two cats Tigre and Patera, Miniature Pinscher, Lobinha, and Doberman, Urso. To learn more about "How to Be a Better Human," host Chris Duffy, or find footnotes and additional resources, please visit: go.ted.com/betterhuman