There is this thing called the repetition compulsion, where we try to solve problems that were not solved properly from past relationships. The answer is, communicate more than anything else, right? If you're asking, what do i do? Bcause you can't just start trusting. You cantry a little bit in terms of accepting people's help. But at the end of the day, it's communicating that, hai, it's hard for me to accept your help,. and letting your partner know that so at least they're aware that this is going on. And when you're authentic,  you're going to be less shame when you're with them.