You don't have to overcome all that stuff. You can just ask the other person, hey, is it ok for us to talk a little bit? I've got something going on right now and i kind of need to unload. And what's really cool is that this person is actually doing this. This person is asking for permission on discord. They're practising it right here. Is it ok that im doing this? It'll do so much for your internal anxieties.