Most people, again, when they hear that word confident or confident, think, oh, they've got it altogether. So i ask just about everybody i work with to be honest with themselves and we discuss, what are the moments in your life where you have indeed shown sparks of competence? We might have to go back to you knaw, your middle school years. Let's filter a lot of the memories you have, and let's bring out of your past some shining moments that might actual indicate, Oh yes, there's a heck of a lot of competence here. Al kit: The trick for anybody in that situation, eric, is to start looking for evidence. Start going back