This chapter delves into the complexities of dating with a disability, exploring personal experiences of individuals who have acquired disabilities later in life and those who were born with disabilities. It discusses topics such as transparency in online dating, the challenges of presenting oneself authentically, mutual caregiving in relationships, power dynamics, safety concerns, societal expectations, and the journey towards embracing one's disabled self. The conversation sheds light on the grief, fear, and anger that can arise when anticipated futures differ due to disabilities, while also emphasizing the importance of positive representation of healthy disabled relationships in society.
Todd is looking for love, but he’s unsure about disclosing something in dating profiles: his multiple sclerosis. With symptoms that are increasingly visible, Todd feels compelled to be upfront about his disability with potential dates—but he doesn’t know when or how to discuss it. On this episode of How To!, Carvell Wallace brings on Jessica Slice and Caroline Cupp, authors of Dateable: Swiping Right, Hooking Up, and Settling Down While Chronically Ill and Disabled. They give Todd guidance on having that talk, navigating ableism, and managing his own internal expectations.
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