How to Be a Better Person in a Relationship

We have a whole lot of questions and we've got a good 20 minutes to get through as many of them as we can so so Carol take over what are give us our questions here. These are respond well when your partner is responding well first. How do you set your partner up to respond in better ways. What kind of a person do you want your relationship to push you to become right? And whether your motivation is about the relationship overall whether it's about having a better sex lifewhether it's about all of the above, what kind of a people do you want to become.