The Path of True, Durable Change in Relationships

It's really important to appreciate your partner for the things that are good and going well. Find pleasure outside of your relationship in ways that nourish you. You can also take a pottery glass or do an exercise routine, or watch a net flick show  that your partner would never watch. And breathe, because this will take time. There will be days when you slide back, or when they slide back. But with time, practice, patience and commitment, things can get better.