The Dilemma of ADHD and Asthma

I tend to take the approach of you have this disorder. The metaphor I often use for this is asthma because I have asthma. Of course, you have asthma. You're allowed to have an asthma attack. It's normal, even if it only happens infrequently. And the same is true for ADHD, whatever your neurodiversity is. Where it becomes problematic, I think, is if you judge me as wanting and find me to be morally inferior because my ADHD messed something up or I had an anxiety burst. There are a lot of disorders where we don't talk about it in terms of neurology but that's just your neurology too.