Episode 469: When The Unconscious Takes Over Your Sex Life
Sex and Psychology Podcast
Why Masturbation and Partnered Orgasms Differ
Juliane shares a case where expanding expectations helped a client recognize partnered orgasms she had been missing.
We often think good sex mostly comes down to physical technique. But many people feel disconnected from their bodies, stuck in their heads, or unable to access desire and pleasure. And that’s something technique alone can’t fix. Today, we’ll explore how attending to unconscious factors like shame, anxiety, and trauma can open the door to deeper pleasure.
I am joined once again by Juliane Maxwald, a licensed psychoanalyst, couples therapist, and AASECT-certified sex therapist based in New York City. She has over fifteen years of experience working with individuals and couples. She is the author of the new book Psychoanalytic Sex Therapy: Exploring the Unconscious Life of Sexuality.
Some of the specific topics we explore in this episode include:
- Why orgasm is more than a physical response
- How shame and trauma quietly shape your sex life
- Why “spectatoring” kills pleasure
- When trying to fix your partner backfires
- How to reconnect with your body during sex
To learn more about Juliane’s work, visit her website and find her on Instagram @julianemaxwald. Listeners can receive 20% off her new book, Psychoanalytic Sex Therapy, via this link.
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