Is It a Pretendative Relationship?

I remember discussing with this people and I remember two kinds of theories people liked, but you know, at the moment I'm not that big on them but they're worth mentioning. One theory was what you want to be liked for permanent not temporary features because if they like you for a temporary feature then that means your relationship could go away. Another way to another sort of framing is liking you for a commodity versus liking you for some very unique feature. And so it's actually relatively open which properties of a person have romantic potential. That suggests that we have to go move over to okay, what is it for something to have romantic, it's not the property itself. Right?