Leftover 17th Anniversary Questions #3
Psychology In Seattle Podcast
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Using Parts Work for Severe Borderline Without a Central Self
Kirk explains how internal family systems can map onto protectors and parts even when a stable self is hard to access.
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Dr Kirk answers leftover questions from the 17th Anniversary Live Show survey.
This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. Give online therapy a try at betterhelp.com/KIRK to get 10% off your first month.
00:00 What therapy is best for Borderline?
04:42 How can I address my own toxic behavior?
07:18 Drawing boundaries with in-laws
08:55 Thoughts on relationship OCD
11:45 How can schools pick a competent therapist?
18:44 What is the best approach when a friend self diagnoses?
27:39 Dr. Kirk's experience with roller coasters
31:45 Who is Dr. Kirk's favorite 'villain' in psychology?
32:10 How does Berto have so many jobs?
32:36 How can you support a toddler during a tantrum?
36:40 Christopher Palmer's Metabolic Mind
37:06 What can help young adults transition into adulthood?
41:28 Should I be concerned that my neighbor is a sex offender?
44:47 Is CIMBS therapy helpful for attachment trauma?
45:13 "There is always a logic for how weird your spouse is"
46:15 Going through nurse burnout
49:02 What pets does Dr. Kirk have?
49:47 How can you help a partner express their emotions during a hard time?
52:24 Does Dr. Kirk extrapolate psychology on society at large?
53:10 How can IFS help someone with Borderline?
54:33 What is the best Sci-Fi?
58:08 Should you tell someone close to you that they have NPD?
59:05 What are brain farts?
59:37 Can I trick myself into thinking that I'm younger than I am?
1:01:45 Does Dr. Kirk fear for the future of our country?
1:10:55 What are signs of emotional abuse?
1:19:29 If AI developed consciousness...
1:20:13 What is the best day Dr. Kirk ever had?
1:21:15 What would Dr. Kirk like to do in life that he hasn't yet?
1:22:41 What does Dr. Kirk do for fun?
1;23:22 What is Dr. Kirk's favorite album?
1:24:23 What deep dive does Dr. Kirk think about the most?
1:25:10 What food would Dr. Kirk eat for the rest of his life?
1:25:44 Guidance for students
1:26:04 Dr. Kirk's current favorite songs
1:30:01 What makes a good client therapist relationship?
1:30:14 Is it weird to talk about your sex life with therapists?
1:31:24 Breastfeeding
1:33:35 Do ignorant comments bother Dr. Kirk?
1:33:54 What is Dr. Kirk's dream pet?
1:34:51 What is Dr. Kirk's favorite pasta dish?
1:35:51 How do you know if someone is a good friend for you?
1:36:34 Marijuana use in mental health
1:38:18 Who misrepresents their licensure the most?
1:38:44 What genre would the podcast be?
1:39:38 Is grief a burden?
1:41:07 What is the most uncomfortable boundary Dr. Kirk has had to draw?
1:43:18 Does Dr. Kirk play MTG?
1:45:45 Do twins have super powers?
1:46:14 Did Dr. Kirk have any knowledge of Mars Hill Church?
1:47:22 How can I enter a new state of change?
1:51:35 What makes Dr. Kirk & Berto laugh?
1:52:14 Dr. Kirk & Berto's biggest fight
1:58:01 A tip for a fulfilling life
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October 22, 2025
The Psychology In Seattle Podcast ®
Trigger Warning: This episode may include topics such as assault, trauma, and discrimination. If necessary, listeners are encouraged to refrain from listening and care for their safety and well-being.
Disclaimer: The content provided is for educational, informational, and entertainment purposes only. Nothing here constitutes personal or professional consultation, therapy, diagnosis, or creates a counselor-client relationship. Topics discussed may generate differing points of view. If you participate (by being a guest, submitting a question, or commenting) you must do so with the knowledge that we cannot control reactions or responses from others, which may not agree with you or feel unfair. Your participation on this site is at your own risk, accepting full responsibility for any liability or harm that may result. Anything you write here may be used for discussion or endorsement of the podcast. Opinions and views expressed by the host and guest hosts are personal views. Although, we take precautions and fact check, they should not be considered facts and the opinions may change. Opinions posted by participants (such as comments) are not those of the hosts. Readers should not rely on any information found here and should perform due diligence before taking any action. For a more extensive description of factors for you to consider, please see www.psychologyinseattle.com
This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. Give online therapy a try at betterhelp.com/KIRK to get 10% off your first month.
00:00 What therapy is best for Borderline?
04:42 How can I address my own toxic behavior?
07:18 Drawing boundaries with in-laws
08:55 Thoughts on relationship OCD
11:45 How can schools pick a competent therapist?
18:44 What is the best approach when a friend self diagnoses?
27:39 Dr. Kirk's experience with roller coasters
31:45 Who is Dr. Kirk's favorite 'villain' in psychology?
32:10 How does Berto have so many jobs?
32:36 How can you support a toddler during a tantrum?
36:40 Christopher Palmer's Metabolic Mind
37:06 What can help young adults transition into adulthood?
41:28 Should I be concerned that my neighbor is a sex offender?
44:47 Is CIMBS therapy helpful for attachment trauma?
45:13 "There is always a logic for how weird your spouse is"
46:15 Going through nurse burnout
49:02 What pets does Dr. Kirk have?
49:47 How can you help a partner express their emotions during a hard time?
52:24 Does Dr. Kirk extrapolate psychology on society at large?
53:10 How can IFS help someone with Borderline?
54:33 What is the best Sci-Fi?
58:08 Should you tell someone close to you that they have NPD?
59:05 What are brain farts?
59:37 Can I trick myself into thinking that I'm younger than I am?
1:01:45 Does Dr. Kirk fear for the future of our country?
1:10:55 What are signs of emotional abuse?
1:19:29 If AI developed consciousness...
1:20:13 What is the best day Dr. Kirk ever had?
1:21:15 What would Dr. Kirk like to do in life that he hasn't yet?
1:22:41 What does Dr. Kirk do for fun?
1;23:22 What is Dr. Kirk's favorite album?
1:24:23 What deep dive does Dr. Kirk think about the most?
1:25:10 What food would Dr. Kirk eat for the rest of his life?
1:25:44 Guidance for students
1:26:04 Dr. Kirk's current favorite songs
1:30:01 What makes a good client therapist relationship?
1:30:14 Is it weird to talk about your sex life with therapists?
1:31:24 Breastfeeding
1:33:35 Do ignorant comments bother Dr. Kirk?
1:33:54 What is Dr. Kirk's dream pet?
1:34:51 What is Dr. Kirk's favorite pasta dish?
1:35:51 How do you know if someone is a good friend for you?
1:36:34 Marijuana use in mental health
1:38:18 Who misrepresents their licensure the most?
1:38:44 What genre would the podcast be?
1:39:38 Is grief a burden?
1:41:07 What is the most uncomfortable boundary Dr. Kirk has had to draw?
1:43:18 Does Dr. Kirk play MTG?
1:45:45 Do twins have super powers?
1:46:14 Did Dr. Kirk have any knowledge of Mars Hill Church?
1:47:22 How can I enter a new state of change?
1:51:35 What makes Dr. Kirk & Berto laugh?
1:52:14 Dr. Kirk & Berto's biggest fight
1:58:01 A tip for a fulfilling life
Become a member: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCOUZWV1DRtHtpP2H48S7iiw/join
Become a patron: https://www.patreon.com/PsychologyInSeattle
Email: https://www.psychologyinseattle.com/contact
Website: https://www.psychologyinseattle.com
Merch: https://psychologyinseattle-shop.fourthwall.com/
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/psychologyinseattle/
Facebook Official Page: https://www.facebook.com/PsychologyInSeattle/
TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@kirk.honda
October 22, 2025
The Psychology In Seattle Podcast ®
Trigger Warning: This episode may include topics such as assault, trauma, and discrimination. If necessary, listeners are encouraged to refrain from listening and care for their safety and well-being.
Disclaimer: The content provided is for educational, informational, and entertainment purposes only. Nothing here constitutes personal or professional consultation, therapy, diagnosis, or creates a counselor-client relationship. Topics discussed may generate differing points of view. If you participate (by being a guest, submitting a question, or commenting) you must do so with the knowledge that we cannot control reactions or responses from others, which may not agree with you or feel unfair. Your participation on this site is at your own risk, accepting full responsibility for any liability or harm that may result. Anything you write here may be used for discussion or endorsement of the podcast. Opinions and views expressed by the host and guest hosts are personal views. Although, we take precautions and fact check, they should not be considered facts and the opinions may change. Opinions posted by participants (such as comments) are not those of the hosts. Readers should not rely on any information found here and should perform due diligence before taking any action. For a more extensive description of factors for you to consider, please see www.psychologyinseattle.com
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