Do you have your metaphorical sunglasses on?
Ann and Sue are back for another deep dive, this time on all things information processing. Using the concept of sunglasses as a metaphor for information distortion, they explain how our internal working
models and attachment experiences shape the way we perceive and interpret information. The sunglasses represent different states of activation, with clear glasses indicating a secure state and aviator sunglasses representing a defensive, self-protective state. Sunglasses can affect our relationships – but they don’t have to stop us from building healthy connections. Follow along as we explore the importance of curiosity, self-reflection, and open-mindedness in navigating relationships.
“…you can be very responsive to the people around you and their different states, but you’re also equally responsive to your own battery, your own needs, your own wishes, your own frustrations – that matters too.” – Sue Marriott
Time Stamps for Information Processing
1:06 – Introducing the metaphor of sunglasses
6:27 – Recognizing information distortion and its impact
12:37 – Understanding positive and negative transference
18:15 – Deep dive into the meaning behind the Aviator sunglasses metaphor
23:28 – The impact of early attachment experiences
35:44 – How our stories can impact the way our nervous system responds
41:01 – Questions can feel threatening neurologically